My Family is Amazing and Goodbyes are Difficult

My Family is Amazing and Goodbyes are Difficult

My brother-in-law and his beautiful family came to stay with us for a few days. As exhausting as it was to keep up with the little ones, I really couldn’t be happier with the entire experience. As I mentioned a while ago in “Home is Calling Me” – I’ll be leaving for America soon. While I have quite a bit to look forward to, it’s still extremely difficult to say goodbye to my loved ones here. What a blessing! I love their son, their brother, their nephew, my husband DN, and because of that, they took me into their family. We may have difficulty communicating sometimes, but love needs no translations.

I’ve spent the past few days trying to keep the baby happy and the older children preoccupied. The baby can understand basic Hindi, like me, but the children can communicate to me in Hindi and English. I understand almost everything. While enjoying my time with the kids, as exhausting as it was, my brother-in-law’s wife – my sister – was a complete and total domestic goddess. She knocked out my chores and took over my laundry duty. All of these things have been a little too exhausting for me, lately. She cooked breakfast and lunch for all of us, and made all of her work look easy. Though I know it’s not… I was (and still am) so thankful and in awe. Yet, it’s second nature for her. Even in Jhansi, if she sees that I am not feeling well, she does my work for me. She’s truly a blessing.

My brother-in-law is a strong and caring family man. He knows how to be a good father and watch after his own children, and he is always protective and very giving. He’s a good brother to my husband, and a good caretaker to his parents.

Because of this family, we want for nothing. We have been lifted up and dusted off by them. We have been held and guided in our time of financial struggle. I have been treated like a goddess and adorned with clothes and jewelry without any money to my name. When I was sick, the entire family gathered around and worried for me. While we may have cultural differences and disagreements, nothing can change the fact that this family is just as devoted to me and my husband as we are to them.

We are also very thankful to my sister-in-law and jija-ji that live here in New Delhi. Though we live apart, it is our saving grace that they are just around the corner. In times like these, I wish I saw more of my elder sister-in-law and younger brother-in-law. I have a feeling that we will be even closer in the future.

My Β brother-in-law and his amazing little family left today, and we had to say our goodbyes. We won’t meet again, before I leave. It’s hard, and actually very sad. It makes me wish I didn’t have to go. The realization that I am leaving my family here, really hurts my heart.

It’s for the best though. I’ll miss them every day, but I’ll look forward to my return even more. And when I return, I’ll be bringing the newest edition to our beautiful family with me. That’s why I have to go, after all… It’s bittersweet.


16 thoughts on “My Family is Amazing and Goodbyes are Difficult

  1. Beautiful thoughts. I hope both you doing well. And specially for that last paragraph , Take care of yourself . I hope everything will go fine. Congratulation to you and DN for the new guest that is going to come your life. As usual , Enjoy ..


  2. congratulations. that was quite a secret. Lauren is due in may. did u two consulted each other lol. congratulations and best wishes for the new chapter in your life. god bless u


    1. It was really hard to keep it in, but apparently there’s an etiquette to follow hehe. πŸ™‚
      Lauren and I are pretty close, and so we both knew right away, when the other was expecting. it is a mighty coincidence though, and thank you. ^_^


      1. what is so secretative about pregnancy anyway? I can never understand. maybe u got scared by the baby question Lauren had to face. I guess it is a women thing. I hope I have not offended you.


      2. Oh no, I’m not scared by it. I wish I could have told the news sooner. Part of it was my husband’s wish for fear of “the evil eye” and what not.
        Part of it is because there is some kind of etiquette and some women are very judgy if you tell sooner. :/
        I just didn’t want the negativity, either way.


  3. yes the evil eye, I guessed it right. I think it was in lauren’s case too. even after one birth outsiders do not get to see the baby till some rituals are performed. All this was meant to give the mother some rest and protect the child from infections. Thus evil eye came into existence. We stretched it too far.

    btw u looke like a delhi punjaban in salwar suit.

    mind if I ask u would need help with the baby later on. How would u manage. no offence meant.


    1. None taken, but in the US, mothers raise their own children all the time. It’s not uncommon for couples to live alone and raise their own children. So, I’m used to that culture. πŸ™‚ I used to take care of my younger brothers when both of my parents worked, as a teenager.


      1. true, but any kind of help is always welcome at that time. You propose to keep on writing in future.

        many a times parenthood is overwhelming believe me I speak from experience.

        I suggest and it is just a suggestion. u try to find a maid to look after the baby. somebody from your husband’s native place who can live with u guys or someone local who can stay with u from dawn till dusk.

        In India u can hire help so if you feel overwhelmed which is most likely, don’t hesitate to get help.

        sorry I am a little direct.


  4. Wow….Congratulations….from ur vlogs nobody would have guessed…I just read your blog now and very happy for you…take care dear and many many congratulations to you n ur husband………….


  5. Congratulations 🎊 crystal! I am himanshu Bhatia from india new Delhi. I am 22years old. I am working in cafe coffee day restaurant in new Delhi. I would like to marriage with European girl. American. France. Sweden and Norway etc. I like these countries. Also like European people because European man and woman are honest I think. Can you find me European girl.

    Congratulations again


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