My brother-in-law and his beautiful family came to stay with us for a few days. As exhausting as it was to keep up with the little ones, I really couldn’t be happier with the entire experience. As I mentioned a while ago in “Home is Calling Me” – I’ll be leaving for America soon. While I have quite a bit to look forward to, it’s still extremely difficult to say goodbye to my loved ones here. What a blessing! I love their son, their brother, their nephew, my husband DN, and because of that, they took me into their family. We may have difficulty communicating sometimes, but love needs no translations.
I’ve spent the past few days trying to keep the baby happy and the older children preoccupied. The baby can understand basic Hindi, like me, but the children can communicate to me in Hindi and English. I understand almost everything. While enjoying my time with the kids, as exhausting as it was, my brother-in-law’s wife – my sister – was a complete and total domestic goddess. She knocked out my chores and took over my laundry duty. All of these things have been a little too exhausting for me, lately. She cooked breakfast and lunch for all of us, and made all of her work look easy. Though I know it’s not… I was (and still am) so thankful and in awe. Yet, it’s second nature for her. Even in Jhansi, if she sees that I am not feeling well, she does my work for me. She’s truly a blessing.
My brother-in-law is a strong and caring family man. He knows how to be a good father and watch after his own children, and he is always protective and very giving. He’s a good brother to my husband, and a good caretaker to his parents.
Because of this family, we want for nothing. We have been lifted up and dusted off by them. We have been held and guided in our time of financial struggle. I have been treated like a goddess and adorned with clothes and jewelry without any money to my name. When I was sick, the entire family gathered around and worried for me. While we may have cultural differences and disagreements, nothing can change the fact that this family is just as devoted to me and my husband as we are to them.
We are also very thankful to my sister-in-law and jija-ji that live here in New Delhi. Though we live apart, it is our saving grace that they are just around the corner. In times like these, I wish I saw more of my elder sister-in-law and younger brother-in-law. I have a feeling that we will be even closer in the future.
My brother-in-law and his amazing little family left today, and we had to say our goodbyes. We won’t meet again, before I leave. It’s hard, and actually very sad. It makes me wish I didn’t have to go. The realization that I am leaving my family here, really hurts my heart.
It’s for the best though. I’ll miss them every day, but I’ll look forward to my return even more. And when I return, I’ll be bringing the newest edition to our beautiful family with me. That’s why I have to go, after all… It’s bittersweet.