We’ve been here over a month, and so much has happened already. Let me explain…
Firstly, it was amazing to see my husband (DN) interacting with our daughter for the first few times. He was full of wonder, not sure the right thing to do, but they instantly clicked. She recognized him from our video conversations! As had happened with me, some things came instinctively to him, and some things he has learned along the way. Parenthood is beautiful and challenging, and I’m glad to see him blossoming in this new role of his.
My brother Nicholas traveled to India with me and Baby N, helping all along the way! He was the pack mule, the gofer, and the sense of humor or helping hand when I needed it most. He got to see a lot of attractions in Delhi, the Taj Mahal, Orchha, and a quick tour of Jhansi. I’m glad he was able to meet DN and our family here in India. (Thanks Nick, for stepping out of your comfort zone to help me! I couldn’t have done it without you!)
Baby N was sick when we left the U.S., with RSV. When we arrived, she became dehydrated, and has been a battle to keep her hydrated ever since. Especially since I am dehydrated myself. We had a routine of giving her ORS powder mixed with water, which helped a lot, and now we give her water throughout the day. There’s no other way to keep her hydrated in this heat, we have tried. We are planning to get an AC in the next few days.
As a foreigner, living in a joint family has been challenging. As it has been before, and I knew it would be again. I certainly knew it wouldn’t be easy, but it’s what we have to do right now. On the positive side, it’s fantastic for Baby N. She gets lots of love and attention from her grandparents and aunts and uncles, as well as lots of playtime with her cousins.
In (hopefully) a few days, our apartment on the first floor will be ready. We’ll have our own space… Our own bathroom, bedroom, kitchen, and living space.
I will write about my experiences and feelings about living in this joint family in the next few days.
Until then, be well.